Sharing dating expenses
My boyfriend and I were celebrating our two-year anniversary with a trip to San Francisco. After finishing our preliminary bread, an appetizer, three entrees, a bottle of wine, and two glasses of port, I grabbed the check. If you keep a large amount of debt a secret, you may be seen as not paying your share.
We’d split the cost of our plane tickets to get there (3.20), our Airbnb apartment (8), and a rental car (2) down the middle; he’d bought me a smoothie before our flight. Be open about what’s going on in your wallet, even if it doesn’t include specific numbers.
Kate, a 33-year-old writer told me, "I tend to try to pay for myself, but as I get older and more comfortable with my awesomeness, I kind of wish and hope that the other person will be a little more old-fashioned about it." Good point.
Then, when I started working and our incomes aligned together better, we started splitting things right down the middle. But then I fully supported him financially during the last year of our relationship when he quit his job to go back to school.
And here’s where I’m reminded of Young and Thrifty’s post, are financially independent women a turn-on?
“A date is usually the first time a couple talks about money, but it shouldn’t be the last,” said Jon Bittner, founder and CEO of Splitwise, an app that keeps track of who’s paying for what, sending you reminder emails about your balance at the end of every month.
“Once you are no longer just ‘dating’ but are actually in a relationship, you should find a way to set expectations about money.” It’s a little tedious, but keeping track of all the purchases you make as a couple — be it rent, furniture, or plane tickets — will help you have a more specific look at where your money goes, even if you keep your finances separate.